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Letters from the first and the 15th

The first and the 15th is a biweekly newsletter (seriously, you only receive it on the first and the 15th of each month) where I share my worldview as a human writer in a world where writing is increasingly being underappreciated.

I explore the concept of using writing, reading, and books as a way to share ideas and start meaningful conversations. And just for the fun of it, I may include a book recommendation so you can add it to the growing stack of books you buy but never actually read. Yes, you.

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They don't really know you, do they?
They don't really know you, do they?

How much do you really know about your loved ones? How much do they know about you? They don’t really know you, do they?

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiOctober 15, 2024Tobi NifesiGhostwriting, Psychology, Vulnerability, Writing, Therapy
rest well
rest well

We don’t do enough with the time we set aside to rest, and that makes work much more difficult to return to.

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiSeptember 15, 2024Rest, Time, Work, Bible, Ghostwriting
I finally understand Don Draper
I finally understand Don Draper

I finally understand why a man of such intellect, wits, and talent, can have so many flaws and, at times, behave selfishly.

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiSeptember 1, 2024Tobi NifesiMad Men, Trauma, Psychology, Fatherhood, Men, Relationships, Time
the age of assumption
the age of assumption

What do psychics, prophets and fortune tellers have in common?

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiJune 1, 2024Questions, Ghostwriting, Work, Journalism
-30-
-30-

I turn 30 today. It seems like a milestone, but I don't have the slightest idea what difference this age makes other than the fact that I now have almost three decades' worth of moments, memories, and miracles to learn from.

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiMay 15, 2024Tobi NifesiTime, Psychology, Gratitude, Hope, Creativity
when writing isn’t just therapy
when writing isn’t just therapy

We all need a sounding board, especially men. We do. But should it always involve writing?

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiApril 1, 2024Tobi NifesiTherapy, Ghostwriting, Vancouver
What in the world are men reading?
What in the world are men reading?

Women are more likely to read books regardless of the author’s gender but men are more likely to read books written by men. Yes, you read that right: men are reluctant to open and read books written by women.  Why’s that? And what are they reading instead?

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiMarch 15, 2024Tobi NifesiWomen’s History Month, Women, Men, Gender Gap, Book, Reading, Psychology
Do the right/hard thing
Do the right/hard thing

Most of us are taught to do the right thing. But we weren’t told that doing the right thing is often the hardest thing to do or that the hardest thing to do may be the right thing. Read that again. 

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiMarch 1, 2024Decision Making, Psychology, Faith, Time
Skip the roses for this one
Skip the roses for this one

You can skip the roses for this one. A simple thank you note, a small gesture of kindness, or even just a heartfelt conversation can go a long way in strengthening relationships and fostering a positive work environment. 

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiFebruary 15, 2024Tobi NifesiValentine's Day, Ghostwriting, Gratitude, Prayer, Podcast, Love, Psychology, Relationships, Career
Counting the cost
Counting the cost

Counting the cost is only part of the process; it’s not the end. This part of the process isn’t supposed to deter you from moving forward. Instead, it is supposed to keep you informed and help position you for success in the long run. So, embrace it. 

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiFebruary 1, 2024Tobi NifesiPatience, Diligence, Discipline, Ghostwriting, Dream Building, Psychology
Can you? or Can you not?
Can you? or Can you not?

The fact that nobody has it all figured out is liberating. It means that we can push and stretch ourselves as far as our limits can go.

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiJanuary 15, 2024Writing, Ghostwriting, Trauma, Psychology, Book
why today (New Year's Day) matters
why today (New Year's Day) matters

Days like today, yesterday (New Year's Eve), birthdays, anniversaries, etc., are reminders to be grateful for how far we have come and hopeful for what’s to come.

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiJanuary 1, 2024New Year, Gratitude, Hope
The year that stood still
The year that stood still

This year has felt like one of the longest of my life, not because time stood still but because I often had to be at ease even when I couldn't afford to.

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiDecember 15, 20232023, Psychology, New Year
And just like that, it’s December
And just like that, it’s December

Exactly four years ago, my then-fiancee and I boarded a plane from Winnipeg to Vancouver, with layovers in Calgary and Edmonton. It was a one-way, all-night trip, and we haven’t looked back since.

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiDecember 1, 2023Tobi NifesiIdeas, Ghostwriting, Fear, Relationships, Time, Faith, Gratitude, Vancouver, Canada, Decision Making
Who cares?
Who cares?

“The truth is,” I continued, “there will always be people who won't care about you or your story. Most people won’t. But there will also be people who do care. People who find inspiration, connection, and encouragement in the stories we share. People

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiNovember 15, 2023Storytelling, Ghostwriting, Writing, Time
“What is it like being a father?”
“What is it like being a father?”

Conventional wisdom says we should always keep an open mind. While I absolutely agree with that advice, I don’t think it applies to my time.

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiMay 1, 2023Tobi NifesiFatherhood, Time
I quit. And here’s why.
I quit. And here’s why.

When I promised myself, in that one letter four months ago, to take stock of my time and reevaluate how I use it, I knew I had to report back at some point. So here it is. 

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiApril 15, 2023Tobi NifesiCareer, Fatherhood, Time
Write now. Share soon.
Write now. Share soon.

The older I get, the more I realize that no good idea ever comes to life if it isn't written down. From thought to reality, the bridge is the pen. 

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the first and the 15thTobi NifesiApril 1, 2023Tobi NifesiWriting
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